Winning the Battle Against Depression

September 12, 2018

Winning the Battle Against Depression

 

In this podcast episode Ben Dodge and Erik Huso discuss the power of the principles of Affect Epic and how they can help you win the battle of depression. Depression is very common. It is one of the most, if not most common mental illnesses in the U.S. According to a recent study the most severe sort of depression labeled a major depressive episode is experienced by an estimated 16.2 million adults in the U.S. and 3.1 million adolescents. The prevalence of adults with a major depressive episode was highest among individuals aged 18-25. And women were more than 2x more likely to experience depression. (See https://www.everydayhealth.com/depression/guide/ and https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/statistics/major-depression.shtml#part_155029).

 

These principles will help you reduce and even eliminate depression in your life. Living authentically, retaining your power of choice, living in integrity, staying clear on your commitments, managing the If Then mindset, the power of belief, the power and choice of hope, and more. Live liberated and win your battle against depression. In many cases these principles can even help prevent depression from setting in.

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Millennials in the Workforce and at Home. Tools to Help.

September 4, 2018

Most of the complaints that we have about them is our fault, the way we raised them, the way we coddled them, helicopter them, and enabled them. We’ve wanted to shield them from all the challenges made a strong, and in so doing, in some cases have weaken their ability to cope with difficulties and trials.

 

On the other hand, millennials are giving us a great gift if we would just open our eyes and stop judging them. They are less motivated by extrinsic factors. Carrots and sticks don’t drive them. When they identify a cause greater than themselves they jump all in. They are willing to sacrifice their personal life, their emotional health, positions of power or money. They can teach us a lot about what matters most.

 

Fundamental attribution error leads us to a fixed mindset, and limits our influence with young people.

 

 

So how do we lead, inspire, connect with and motivate millennials who in a few years will make up 3/4 of the workforce?  

 

  1. Give them meaningful work.  
  2. Honor their desire to balance personal and professional life.  Most aren't going to be committed to work.  Find out what they are committed to and help them be aligned with those commitments. Inspire them and coach them to accomplish what they are committed to.  They will either leave your organization or they will be all in for you.  
  3. Don't insult them with carrots as motivators.  What drives them isn't money.  As long as the money is in the ballpark, more money won't motivate them.  
  4. Have career conversations with them so you know what their professional goals are.  If they are in alignment with their skillset and your organizations needs, you can provide them with growth opportunities.  
  5. Old school control won't work.  They are resistant to authority.  You must authentically care about them and relate with them.  They will embrace accountability if they are aligned with the mission of the organization and they know that you care about them. 
  6. Culture is huge--what words describe your company culture?  Does it align with your workforce?  What are your organizations values? Are there inconsistencies with what you've declared as your values and what your employees experience?  Authenticity, integrity are huge here.  
  7. Acknowledge them.  Specific acknowledgments in the way they want to be acknowledged.  They are unique individuals.  Some will want to be acknowledged publicly and others will cringe at it, preferring to work behind the scenes.   
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“Hardship doesn’t build character, it reveals it.” Commitment and Determination Applied through the Race Across France.

August 30, 2018

If you think you can build strength in character during your trials and hardships you are gravely mistaken. Hardship doesn’t build character it reveals it. Hardship can strengthen what you already have or blow up and expose the weaknesses you struggle with. What you forge through adversity is really fought and won before your adversity has even started.

 

The secret to demonstrating incredible strength of character, commitment, and determination is to be Intentional, possess clear commitments, and live authentically and in alignment with them long before you step foot on the battleground of adversity. Then and only then will the adversity make you whole and strengthen what you have already built. Otherwise, you step onto the battlefield ill prepared, mentally weak, and you will crack wide open when it finally gets hard enough.

 

Commitment is doing whatever it takes. How committed are you? Are your commitments clear? Do you keep them unfettered from distraction? Do you slump into a self pity party and victim mentality when it gets too hard? Most of us do. Now is the time to shore up your character. The phrase “prove yourself in battle” is intentional about demonstrating what you already have built up… not a invitation to build the strength you now need while out there.

 

Find your legacy within you. Know your “why” and be willing to do whatever it takes to demonstrate it when necessary. Build it now through clear commitments and precise intentional conduct according to your commitments and in alignment with them and your life’s purpose. Then you will have the strength of character needed to endure the hardships that await.

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Why marriages fail and how you can create an epic marriage.

August 22, 2018

Are  you committed to your spouse?  Are you willing to do whatever it takes to create an epic relationship?  Are you coming to the relationship with integrity? At the root of infidelity, at the root of poor communication, at the root of financial distress and at anything else that results in failed relationships are a lack of commitment, acting out of integrity, having unmet expectations, a lack of relating, being out of alignment or living inauthentically.  Listen in for how these powerful principles can strengthen any relationship.

 

The article we reference that outlines common reasons for divorce can be found here:  

https://www.marriage.com/advice/divorce/10-most-common-reasons-for-divorce/   

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Is a balanced life even a possibility?

August 15, 2018

One of the greatest struggles that successful people experience is balancing their commitment to their professional life and their family life.  We discuss the principles that will help you create excellence professionally and personally, without sacrificing either one.  Like creating a recipe, balancing a checkbook, or conducting an orchestra, with clear intention and commitment you can leverage time to create an epic life, personally and professionally.  

Video referenced in podcast of woman balancing the feather:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jSDGaQO4ssk 

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Understanding Commitment: How to Prioritize Commitments and Handle Competing Commitments

August 8, 2018

Commitment literally means doing whatever it takes. Many of us struggle with being committed. In this podcast we dig deeper into the powerful principle of commitment. Specifically we deal with the issues of prioritizing commitments and how to handle competing what appears to be competing commitments and conflicts in commitments.

How committed are you? Are you able to balance your various commitments effectively without sacrificing them? Live committed. Prioritize your commitments and live a life of liberation.

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The Power of Choice

August 1, 2018

If your name was in the dictionary, would it be followed by a (v) or a (n)? How do you change from a verb to a noun? Simple! It is all about the power of choice. Make decisions, take action. Those people in the world who do not make choices, who do not take action are often those who also struggle with a victim mentality. Or in other words, they give up their individual power of choice to others, or to the circumstances they perceive as defining them and/or their current status in the world.

Never give up your power of choice. Retain it for your self. Make decisions, even if they are bad decisions you can learn from them. Refuse for the world or those around you to create you by their choices. Make your own choices and discover and grow in the power of choice.

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Self Confidence vs Self Esteem: Understanding The Building Blocks of Power

July 24, 2018

Don't allow your own belief in what you are worthy of be dictated by others. Center your self worth (i.e. self esteem - or in other words, your relationship with yourself) in the pursuit of your commitments. Self Confidence must be used or it will be lost. Flex it, use it, strengthen it. The building bocks discussed in this podcast  are incredible tools and fundamental to understanding how to develop and strengthen your self confidence. The real secret is to be constantly engaged in the pursuit of your clear commitments. This and other important building blocks of Self Confidence and it's close cousin Self Esteem are unfolded in this episode.

Self Confidence is trusting your own abilities, capacities, and judgments – a belief that you can successfully face day to day challenges and demands (psychology dictionary online).

Self Esteem is your belief about your own self worth. It is your relationship with your self. Your value through your own eyes. It can be made up of self respect, or the belief that we are deserving of happiness, love, and success (Nathaniel Branden).

Self confidence is not arrogance. Arrogance is an attitude of superiority manifested in an overbearing manner or in presumptuous claims or assumptions (https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/arrogance).

Thank you for your comments, your shares, and your questions. We LOVE our listeners. Have an epic day.

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Forgiveness VS Resentment - Powerfully Liberate Yourself from the Resentment You Might Not Even Know You’re Holding Onto!

July 18, 2018

Our intention is to help you achieve epic performance in your life and your relationships.  Today's podcast on forgiveness discusses a principle that if ignored will have a negative impact on your possibilities.  

 
Why do we need to forgive?  To live free, to live liberated, to maximize your performance and your influence.  Not forgiving is like running a race carrying burdensome weight.  It slows you down and limits your performance.  Forgiveness of yourself is absolutely paramount.
 
Forgiving requires deep humility, the humility seen in Level 5 Leaders (see Good to Great by Jim Collins).  Forgiving is a manifestation of the growth mindset, believing that people can grow, improve and change.  If you find it challenging to forgive coworkers, employees, a boss, or family members, it may be an indication of having a fixed mindset.  
 
Failure is our most efficient teacher.  Forgive yourself over and over again.  We don't penalize children learning to walk or ride a bike for falling and failing.  Similar applications can be made as we deal with our own shortcomings and the weaknesses of others.  
 
Honoring the Four Agreements (Don Miguel Ruiz) with yourself will facilitate forgiving others:
1.  Be impeccable with your word.  
2.  Don't take anything personally.
3.  Don't make assumptions.
4.  Do your very best
 
These four agreements will free YOU from unjust judgments you've made about yourself and others.  
 
So how do we start?  If you want to change a relationship, you must first change your context or paradigm.  You must remove the glasses that you see that person through.  Every individual we have a relationship has a unique lens we see them through, created on our past experiences we've had with them, and/or the lens others have shared with us based on their experiences or the lenses others have shared with them.  Forgiving others requires us to remove these lenses and see people with fresh eyes.  This is best done by making the attempt to see the world through their eyes, without judgment.  Seemingly impossible, the effort, the attempt is what creates the new context and the possibility to change the relationship.  
 
Be free.  Liberate yourself.  Forgive!
 
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More on INTEGRITY: How Integrity is a Principle of Magnetic Power and Living both Powerfully & Liberated

July 11, 2018

The world thinks Integrity is "doing the right thing when no one is looking." Everyone typically makes the mistake of thinking integrity is a moral and ethical issue. While it can very well be an ethical issue, Integrity is much better understood by Harvard Professor Michael Jensen: “Integrity is a matter of a person’s word – nothing more and nothing less.”

A person’s word can mean so much. It can be something you understand as implied behavior in a given context. Of course it is doing what you say you will do. It is also doing what is expected of you even if not explicitly communicated. Integrity is all about workability. If you operate and live with a high level of integrity then you are powerful. You have a magnetic power where you are counted on and relied upon and what you say really goes. And what you stand for really is important. People and business are drawn to integrity because it is workable.

In this podcast we discuss real life examples people and businesses who are IN integrity and those who are OUT. You are always in or out. There is no grey area with integrity. When you live and operate with a high level of integrity you will feel free from the chains of a life lacking integrity. For example, there is no such thing as a time management problem – only an integrity problem. Be careful and intentional as to what you give your word to and then honor your word. You will then find that you don’t have time management problems any more. You have the same 24 hours in a day that every uber successful titan of business ever had.

Live and operate with integrity. Feel the difference. Feel the liberation and the power of life with integrity.

Link to Michael Jensen's incredible and groundbreaking article on integrity: http://affectepic.com/live-and-operate-with-integrity-feel-the-difference-feel-the-liberation-and-the-power-of-life-with-integrity/

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